Are Expectations Ruining The Romance?
Great Expectations – Are They Ruining Your Romance? It’s great to have high expectations of what life is going to be like when you’re sharing it with the person who is the love of your life. Unfortunately, many people have dreams and expectations that are simply unobtainable. Whether it comes from reading romance novels where
Great Expectations – Are They Ruining Your Romance?
It’s great to have high expectations of what life is going to be like when
you’re sharing it with the person who is the love of your life.
Unfortunately, many people have dreams and expectations that are simply
unobtainable. Whether it comes from reading romance novels where the hero
also realizes the error of his ways and gives in to the heroine’s every
whim, or, on the other side of the coin, from watching rap videos where
women are throwing themselves at the feet of men ready to cater to their
As a society, we’re giving mixed messages between fantasy and reality and
it’s ruining more than its fair share of romances. If your relationship is
becoming a bitter disappointment because it isn’t meeting up to your
expectations here are a few things it might help you to remember.
Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Others
Whether you’re comparing your relationship to real relationships other
people have (what you see of those relationships anyway) or something in
novels or on television screens, you’re doing your relationship a huge
disservice. Reality can never live up to fiction and you’re only seeing
the public side of other relationships. You’re not privy to what’s going
on behind closed doors.
Establish Realistic Expectations
The truth is that we all have expectations of life that rarely live up to
reality. When it comes to relationships, learning to compromise and have
expectations that are more realistic can make a world of difference when
it comes to how happy you are with your partner. Both of you have areas
where there is room for improvement. Identify them and make changes where
Learn to Speak Up When It’s Important
The other problem regarding expectations arises when you fail to speak up
when something is really important to you. Your partner can’t meet your
needs if he or she isn’t aware of them. You must speak up and let your
partner know what’s going on in your head and in your heart. You can’t
hold the other person in the equation responsible for unknown variables.
It’s not fair to either of you or your relationship.
It doesn’t seem like such a big deal at first glance. However, adjusting
your expectations just a little bit, in order to meet your partner in the
middle, can make a world of different to your happiness with the
relationship and with your partner.