Date Night Mistakes
Are You Making These Disastrous Date Night Mistakes? Date night can be a highly effective tool for putting a little love back into your relationship. Whether you’re going through a bit of a seven-year-itch or on the verge of calling it quits, making the right date night choices can be a huge win for your
Are You Making These Disastrous Date Night Mistakes?
Date night can be a highly effective tool for putting a little love back
into your relationship. Whether you’re going through a bit of a
seven-year-itch or on the verge of calling it quits, making the right date
night choices can be a huge win for your marriage. Unfortunately, making
date night mistakes of monumental proportions, such as those listed below,
can spell disaster for your efforts to save your relationship.
Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems
Date night is all about getting away from the mundane issues troubling the
two of you. It’s time to turn your focus on each other. Leave the kids,
parents, in-laws, and outlaws at home where they belong. You want this to
be a genuine “feel good” opportunity. Don’t squander it by bringing bad
vibes into the evening.
Bringing Work Along on Your Date
Whether it is in thoughts or in deeds, bringing work on your date night
date not only kills the mood, but also breeds resentment. In many
marriages, constant work is a problem. Your spouse feels slighted because
you always seem to put work before family. When you bring work on your
date night that resentment becomes a deep and simmering rage. It’s just
another nail in the coffin of your relationship in many ways and one that
can be easily avoided one night a week.
Cancelling Date Night or Rearranging it at the Last Minute
Cancelling date nights is a huge no-no. It’s the last thing you want to do
without a darned good (I mean someone has died or is about to die kind of)
reason. Whenever you cancel date night, you’re essentially putting
whatever reason it was before your marriage. Stuff happens. Sitters quit
or cancel and you’re left scrambling to find a suitable alternative. It’s
better to do a little additional scrambling than to deal with the romantic
and relationship fallout of a cancellation.
The same holds true with rearranging plans at the last minute. Once the
sitter is lined up and dinner plans are set for the evening, last-minute
rearrangements really upset the apple cart doing more harm for the date
night cause than good. The bottom line is that if you aren’t going to take
date night seriously, it’s better nto to plan to have it at all.
Falling into a Date Night Rut
Whatever you do, don’t do the same thing week after week. It becomes
monotonous and routine. This is your opportunity to add a little fun and
excitement to your relationship. Don’t risk it by going to dinner and a
movie week after week. Switch it up some and see what a difference it
makes not only in your excitement about having a date night but also in
your partner’s response to date night. Make a date night “bucket list” of
things you’d like to do on date night together and have fun granting each
other’s date night wishes.
Date night can be as exciting or as humdrum as you allow it to be. Make a
compact with yourself and one another not to let your date night become a
run of the mill experience that’s easily taken for granted. Do this and
your marriage is sure to be one in which you do not take each other for