How Can I Save My Marriage?
Is it Possible to Save Your Marriage After Your Husband Cheats? For some women, a cheating husband is a major line in the sand. It’s a breach of trust and a betrayal of love so egregious that she cannot move beyond. This is the one “crime” against marriage that many women cannot forgive or forget.
Is it Possible to Save Your Marriage After Your Husband Cheats?
For some women, a cheating husband is a major line in the sand. It’s a
breach of trust and a betrayal of love so egregious that she cannot move
beyond. This is the one “crime” against marriage that many women cannot
forgive or forget. However, there are a growing number of women in the
world who believe that marriages should be strong enough to weather the
many storms life throws their way — including the category five hurricane
we call adultery. But there are a few things you need to know before you
try to make it work.
Don’t Offer a Free Pass
Even if you plan to forget and move on, you must not give your husband a
“get out of jail free” card when it comes to cheating. He needs to
understand that there are consequences and that this is not behavior
you’re willing to tolerate. Establish ground rules for now and in the
future and let him know that this is a one-shot deal. The affair must end
if there is any hope for the marriage to be saved.
Don’t Ask Questions You Don’t NEED (Really Need) the Answers To
You can sink the knife even deeper into your heart by asking for all the
gory details or you can decide that it’s not important to know the
intimate details of his adultery and move on from there. For most women,
not knowing is ultimately better. You’re not left rehashing the details
over and over again in your mind. Your efforts are better spent looking to
the future and working to put this part of the past as far behind you as
Don’t Allow His Bad Behavior to Undermine Your Confidence
Invariably women blame themselves for their cheating husbands. He’s the
one who did the deed. It’s not about more sex. It’s not about a thinner
waistline, larger cup sizes, or even a broader understanding. No matter
what kinds of excuses men make for their cheating ways it isn’t your fault
that he cheated. You can beat yourself up with what you could have, would
have, or wish you had done differently but none of those things are likely
to have changed the outcome. What you need to focus on now is what you can
do in the future so that it doesn’t happen again.
The big question you must answer right now, though, is whether or not you
really want to make it work. Some women can move past cheating while
others cannot. It’s better to decide now than to send him backing or walk
away only to regret the decision later. Think before you react. If it
takes a little time, then take the time you need to sort out how you feel
and where you want to go from here.