How To Avoid Marriage Mistakes

Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them Marriage is a complex entity that rarely turns out quite the way you envisioned while making plans and picking out China patterns and wedding dresses. It was so much simpler when it was all on paper and everything matched up perfectly. Real life is never quite

Marriage Mistakes Women Make and How to Avoid Them

Marriage is a complex entity that rarely turns out quite the way you
envisioned while making plans and picking out China patterns and wedding
dresses. It was so much simpler when it was all on paper and everything
matched up perfectly. Real life is never quite so neat and tidy.

Unfortunately, many couples put far more thought into planning the details
of their marriage without putting a single thought into what’s going to
happen once the vows are made. If you’re getting ready to take your walk
down the aisle, keep these mistakes in mind so you can avoid them in your
marriage.

Don’t Tell Your Friends about Your Problems

It may seem like the thing to do. Your best friend has been by your side
through thick and thin over the years. You want to turn to her as a
sounding board for your marital troubles. Unfortunately, there’s a big
problem with that. Your friend loves YOU. The jury’s still out on the man
you married.

If you’re going to her to unload all the negatives, she’s going to hate
him on your behalf and never give him or your marriage a real chance. Over
time, the strain will become problematic and you’ll either cut ties with
your husband (at your friend’s urging) or your friend because she’s just
too antagonistic towards the man you love.

Don’t Expect Him to Change

There’s an old saying about men and women and how they view marriage. Men,
according to this old saying, find the perfect woman and marry her hoping
she’ll never change. Women go out and find a great start and marry him
hoping to change him. Unfortunately for you, men are reluctant to change
and are often actually hurt by your efforts to force them to change.

If you seriously want change in the marriage or the relationship, it’s
best to begin by making positive changes for yourself. He’ll notice those
and often want to be part of it, once he decides it’s a change for the
better and not simply for the sake of change. But if you go in expecting
him to change it’s going to leave you both feeling disappointed and out of
sorts.

Don’t Forget to Connect with Your Husband

We nurture many connections in life. We try to build relationships with
our children, with our friends, and even with our coworkers. People reach
out and connect on social media networks and online message boards in
their “after hours”. Connections are more important now than ever before.

And yet so many people fail to reach out and make the connection with the
one person who is most important to them. They believe they feel it should
somehow be automatic and require no active participation in order to keep
going. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have to build the bond
with shared activities and experiences if you want the bond of marriage to
survive the tests of time.

These are small mistakes that can really cost your marriage if you allow
them to. Avoid making them and you’re sure to have a healthier, happier,
and more loving relationship with your husband now and in the years to
come.

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