How to Deal with Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

How to Deal with Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started getting back out there in the real world. You’re hitting the town with your friends. You’re working out at the gym.

How to Deal with Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few
rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started getting
back out there in the real world.

You’re hitting the town with your friends. You’re working out at the gym.
And you’re trying like mad to at least look like you’re getting on with
your life – no matter how much you want her back.

You’re doing good. You’re looking good. Girls are starting to smile and
flirt with you. You’re Superman.

Then BAM!

Out of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you’ve been hit
in the gut with a kryptonite fist.

Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels
like it weighs a thousand pounds and you’re caught between a sudden
overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to
beg her to take you back.

What do you do?

You say something about how it’s great to see her and make a hasty
retreat.

It’s only after you’re out of her presence that you begin to think of all
the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you’d been
able to think clearly at the time.

Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if
you’d just been able to speak. But, wouldn’t it be nice if you could
think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to
her when the moment arrives?

Believe me it would! Especially if you’re interested in getting her back.
Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let
her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it
plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.

I’m not talking about arranging an “accidental” meeting. That’s not the
right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what
you’ll say to her when your paths do cross so that you don’t look like
you’re either avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for
the breakup.

Time heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that
she’s probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are – even
though she’s the one who broke up with you.

So what should you say?

1) Keep it short.
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past – leave that to her.

Keep these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the
script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it’s
second nature and the next time your paths cross you’ll be ready.

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