Making up in the Movies – Why Doesn’t it Really Work That Way?

Making up in the Movies – Why Doesn’t it Really Work That Way? You’ve seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl’s heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980’s boom boxes,

Making up in the Movies – Why Doesn’t it Really Work That Way?

You’ve seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy
meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl’s heart (mean
boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980’s
boom boxes, saying “hello,” flying a jet, and countless other antics to
win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for
both of them in the movies. They’re playing pre-defined roles and
following cues. Real life doesn’t quite work that way.

Lack of Originality

Unfortunately, a lot of guys haven’t gotten the memo. You’re still trying
to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls
you’re trying to get back together with already know about too.

Your ex doesn’t want you to copy something that’s been done before. If
you’re going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very
least, be original. It needs to be something she hasn’t seen before. It
also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere.
Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isn’t
important enough to you for something original.

Not Appropriate for Your Situation

Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can
be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but
there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those
same arguments and situations unique.

No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different
than Harry and Sally’s (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleen’s (You’ve
Got Mail), Maverick and Charlie’s (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffany’s (Silver
Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come
up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More
importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her
heart.

Alternative Endings Worth Considering

That is, of course, if you’re going for movie magic effects. However, you
could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious
and shocking. You could let her go — at least for a little while. Instead
of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through.

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time
has passed, chances are you won’t need to call her. She’ll call you. When
that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending that’s much better than
anything Hollywood could come up with because it’s the story that belongs
to the two of you and no one else.

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