Why Did He Cheat On Me?
Is It Really My Fault He Cheated? If you’ve watched the news lately you’ve probably noticed that there’s been quite a stir over who is at fault when men cheat. A prominent televangelist has suggested that part of the responsibility should be placed on the shoulder of the woman for not making the effort to
Is It Really My Fault He Cheated?
If you’ve watched the news lately you’ve probably noticed that there’s
been quite a stir over who is at fault when men cheat. A prominent
televangelist has suggested that part of the responsibility should be
placed on the shoulder of the woman for not making the effort to overcome
While the “men are dogs” argument doesn’t fly in all corners of the
Web-o-verse, it’s probably a good idea to sit back and speculate over
whether there could be some truth in the idea.
Now, I’m not advocating that men cheat or that women blindly forgive men
who cheat. I’m not even saying that it’s a woman’s fault her man cheats. I
am not even saying that the most diligent efforts by women will prevent
I can definitely say that doing these two things will definitely help keep
his attention focused firmly on you and make other woman almost invisible
to him. Want to know what they are?
Get His Engine Running
Slip a reason for him to come home at night into his briefcase or lunchbox
each day as he sets off for work. Whether it’s a snapshot, a steamy love
note, or just a code word you make up together, give him a reason to come
racing home after he punches out at work for the day.
Live up to the promise you made in the morning. No matter how many things
happen during your day to drag you down, you MUST make good on that
promise so that he’ll know what he’s likely to get each and every time you
drop one of your lunchbox/briefcase hints.
Show Him Your Adoration
Among men who cheat, the overwhelming reason why has nothing to do with
the physical appearance of the other woman. In fact, most men who cheat
have said they do not find the other woman more attractive than their
wives. She’s not thinner, leggier, bustier, and she doesn’t have a bigger
butt (sorry Mix-A-Lot).
It’s not about looks at all. The real reason men cheat on their wives, and
can’t really help themselves, despite the risks it involves has to do with
one thing. She makes him feel adored, flattered, admired, and respected.
She doesn’t roll her eyes at his corny jokes. She clings to his arms and
laughs. She makes the first move. She shows interest. She goes after him
and makes him feel like THE MAN. And THAT is his Kryptonite.
How do you beat this?
It may seem like a tall order, but if you work really hard and think back
to the early days when you dated, you should remember all the things you
used to tell him that you don’t tell him today. You brought out the best
in him by showing him that you believed he was the best and he wants that
feeling back. He’s trying to recapture that when he cheats. Give him that
feeling at home – and give it to him often – and he’ll never have a single
reason to stray.
These two things don’t require six spinning classes a day. They don’t
require a second job. And, they don’t involve major personality changes.
Most of these things are the sorts of things you did when you were first
together and in love. Put them to work today and never worry about a
cheating husband again. Is it your fault he cheated? No, but you CAN make
a difference going forward.