Why Do You Want To Get Your Ex Back?

Why Are You Trying so Hard to Get Your Ex Back? The one thing most people feel immediately after an unexpected, and unwanted, breakup, is desperation to get your ex back. It’s a common denominator that most people experience. You’re hurting. The breakup caused the pain. Ergo, getting back together with your ex will end

Why Are You Trying so Hard to Get Your Ex Back?

The one thing most people feel immediately after an unexpected, and
unwanted, breakup, is desperation to get your ex back. It’s a common
denominator that most people experience. You’re hurting. The breakup
caused the pain. Ergo, getting back together with your ex will end the
pain.

Right?

Not so fast!

Before you start pulling out maps and drawing up battle lines, it’s a good
idea to take a moment to really consider whether getting your ex back is
the right move to make in this situation. It may be your kneejerk
reaction, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best action to take. Here are a
few questions you should ask yourself before you start making plans.

Why do You Want to Get Your Ex Back?

It’s a completely and totally fair question to ask yourself. It’s not
about love. At least, it shouldn’t be. Loving someone alone is not worth
moving heaven and earth in order to get your ex back. You might believe
you’re soul mates, but why do you feel that way? What is it about your ex
that makes this the one person you’re meant to share your life with and
that no other person will do?

Do You Know what You Really Want?

Have you thought about it before now? You may have been making plans for a
future together, but could those plans change and create a happier future
for you? Is the future you’ve been planning one that fills you with
excitement? Is your ex the one person that fills you with excitement? Or,
have you been so busy planning your life as part of a “we” that you’ve
forgotten to make plans for the “me” in the equation? It’s not a given
that your ex isn’t the one and that you aren’t meant to be together. But,
you owe it to yourself to take enough time to figure out the future you
want before you begin to make plans to get your ex back.

Are You Really Good Together?

The final question to ask yourself is the simplest, and often the most
difficult. Are you good together? Do you bring out the best or the worst
in each other? Is the world better when you’re together or did you
secretly long for those moments when your ex was busy doing other things?

The questions aren’t difficult, but the answers can make or break your
plans to get your ex back. If, after answering these hard-hitting
questions, you’re sure your ex is the one and you want him back, then
there’s only one thing left to do: “Make it so.” I can give you the tools
you need to get your ex back. You just have to be willing to put them into
action at the right time and place.

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